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What am I doing here?

When you're diagnosed with a blood cancer, one of your first instincts is to go online and find out all you can about it. After you absorb a Coles Notes version of the mechanics of your disease, what you crave are shared personal stories detailing experiences. That was my trajectory anyway.

After my diagnosis changed from one blood cancer (Polycythemia vera, aka PV) to another (Myelofibrosis, aka MF), I was surprised that I couldn't find those personal stories that I sought. Or maybe I should say that I couldn't find personal stories that I could relate to. 

Joining peer groups on Facebook, I found that most of my peers there were overwhelmingly American, Christian, straight, and a breed of people who refer to themselves as 'warriors", whereas I'm Canadian, atheist, gay, and anything but a warrior. A survivor, maybe, but a warrior, no.   

For sure, there is overlap and much to be shared were you to create a Venn diagram using the circles above, but the content shared in these peer groups made me feel like I didn't belong there. And so, for others who don't feel up to the mantle of warrior, I'm posting here. 

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